Stress management wouldn’t seem like something that would be a part of setting goals but it could be the difference between you achieving them and not achieving them.

There is positive stress and negative stress. Positive stress adds anticipation and excitement to life, and we all thrive under a certain amount of stress. Deadlines, competitions, confrontations, and even our frustrations and sorrows add depth and enrichment to our lives.

Our goal is not to eliminate stress but to learn how to manage it and how to use it to help you achieve your goals. Insufficient stress acts as a depressant and may leave you feeling bored or dejected; on the other hand, excessive stress may leave you feeling all mixed up inside.

What you need to do is find the optimal level of stress which will individually motivate but not overwhelm each of us.

How Can I Tell what is Optimal Stress for Me?
There is no single level of stress that is optimal for every person. We are all individual creatures with unique requirements. As such, what is distressing to one may be a joy to another.
And even when we agree that a particular event is distressing, we are likely to differ in our physiological and psychological responses to it. That’s just human nature. The person who loves to arbitrate disputes and moves from job site to job site would be stressed in a job that was stable and routine, whereas the person who thrives under stable conditions would very likely be stressed on a job where duties were highly varied.
Also, our personal stress requirements and the amount which we can tolerate before we become distressed changes with our ages. It has been found that most illnesses are related to unrelieved stress; for example, anxiety disorders, bowel disorders etc.

If you are experiencing stress symptoms, you have gone beyond your optimal stress level; you need to reduce the stress in your life and/or improve your ability to manage it.

Stress symptoms include, but are not limited to:
Anxiety attacks
Headaches
Fatigue
Loss of appetite
Increase of appetite

How Can I Manage Stress Better?
Identifying unrelieved stress and being aware of its effect on our lives is not sufficient for reducing its harmful effects. Just as there are many sources of stress, there are many possibilities for its management.
However, all require work in order to be effective. Changing the source of stress and/or changing your reaction to it. So you might be wondering how do you do it? Let me show you.

1. Become aware of your stressors and your emotional and physical
reactions.
Notice your stress and its beginnings. Don’t ignore it. Don’t gloss over
your problems.
Determine what events stress you out. How much do these events mean
to you?
Determine how your body responds to the stress. Do you become nervous
or physically upset? If so, in what specific ways?

2. Recognize what you can change.
Can you change your stressors by avoiding or eliminating them
completely?
Can you reduce their intensity over time?
Can you shorten your exposure to stress by taking a break, or leaving the
physical premises?
Can you devote the time and energy necessary to making a change (goal
setting, time management techniques, and delayed gratification
strategies may be helpful here)?

3. Reduce the intensity of your emotional reactions to stress.
The stress reaction is triggered by your perception of danger and/or fears
physical danger or emotional danger, and fears of failure etc.
Are you viewing your stressors in exaggerated terms and/or taking a
difficult situation and making it a disaster?
Are you expecting to please everyone because I’m telling you that you
can’t?
Are you overreacting and viewing things as absolutely critical and urgent
all the time? Do you feel you must always come out the winner in every
situation?
Work at adopting more moderate views; try to see the stress as
something you can cope with rather than something that overpowers
you.
Try to temper your excess emotions. Put the situation in perspective. Do
not labor on the negative aspects of everything find a positive in them if
you can
Take personal time to evaluate your surroundings clearly
Take a deep breath when overly stressed and count backwards from 10
Exercise a little bit or take a walk daily

4. Build your physical reserves.
Eat well-balanced, nutritious meals.
Maintain your ideal weight or appearance.
Avoid nicotine, excessive caffeine, and alcohol.
Mix leisure with work. Take breaks and get away when you can.
Get enough sleep. Be as consistent with your sleep schedule as possible.

5. Maintain your emotional reserves.
Develop some mutually supportive friendships/relationships.
Pursue realistic goals which are meaningful to you, rather than goals
others have for you that you do not share because they won’t succeed.
Expect some frustrations, failures, and sorrows and let them go.
Always be kind and gentle with yourself be your own best friend.

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Time Management Secrets for a More Results Oriented Life! is the perfect ebook to teach you how to create more productivity in your daily schedule and ultimately, in life. With less effort, you can now discover how to effectively achieve more of what you want, reduce stress, while remaining focused and productive every single day!

Procrastination is the end to your time. It is that because once you begin to procrastinate, it is likely that you will face a long road to getting back on track.

Procrastination is the means of putting off something for another day even though you have the ability and the time to obtain those goals right now.

If you are someone that is known for waiting until the last minute to get the work done, this could be causing you a variety of problems that can be wrecking your day and your time. The fact is, though, most people go through the process of procrastination, in different amounts every day.

When you procrastinate, you are actually not getting to achieve what you are capable of achieving and that can cause you to miss out on many opportunities for success in many ways. Procrastination can ruin your career because it may be the one thing that shows others that you are unable to achieve your goals.

How in the world can you actually get around this problem, then? Start with learning what is happening and knowing how to react when you begin to procrastinate. When you realize that you are procrastinating or about to, you can recognize this, stop it and get back on track to better managing your time.

It is also important for you to understand why people procrastinate and in doing so you will be in a better position to avoid allowing it to happen to you, over and over again.

Finally, you need to take the right steps to managing your time so that you can manage the outcomes of your time by learning how to deal with procrastination. It’s a mind set that you can not afford with the limited amount of time that you actually have.

Why Do You Procrastinate?
Procrastination is something that many people, if not all people, actually deal with. You should not believe that this is something that only you go through. Yet, it is something that you need to take care of as quickly as you can so that you can take back the time you are losing.

Procrastination is defined as putting off doing something that you should be putting your attention onto right now.

Usually, people do this when they want to do something else that is favorable, a bit more fun or even just easier.

Is this you? Do you spend long days working hard at what you are trying to accomplish but you are investing your time in accomplishing the easy tasks instead of taking on the larger, more important tasks?

A common problem here is that many people can not see the difference between priorities in tasks. For example, you have an important task to complete. You also have an urgent task to complete. Which do you go to first? You should accomplish the important task because it is just that, important!

Far too many people look towards accomplish the things that they think are necessary to complete right now, forgo the important task and then need to find a way or a time to balance the ball in their favor. Here are some common examples of this.

Let’s say you are working at your desk and in walks your boss. They need you to handle an important client. The phone rings, it is another employee, struggling to accomplish his task and wants your help. You get back to work. The other employee calls again. They need you. Which task do you do; the important client or the employee that will keep calling until you help?

The task here that you should be completing is that which is important, the one that needs your full attention and that will get you the most bang for the buck.

Unfortunately, far too many people strive to accomplish that other task because that person has complained, called and got into their head and they now are the loudest voice there telling them what to do.

But, when you react to that person, you change the way that the day is flowing. Now you need to deal with the important client, when you are stressed and overwhelmed. You’ll also have to explain to the boss why you made the client wait, why the task was not completed soon enough and in the end why the job was not done completely right (because you could not concentrate, of course.)

Other times when this can happen include when you think you are doing the right thing by asking fast. Or, perhaps you did not even think about which is the best task to complete and just jumped on board. That isn’t going to serve you well down the road when you need the help the most.

Are You Overwhelmed Yet?
One of the other reasons that many people struggle with procrastination does not have to do with any of these other situations. It has to do with the feeling of being so overwhelmed that you feel like you just can not do it.

For example, you have a large and important project on your desk. There are many steps to accomplishing it and it will take time to go through the project, organize and accomplish it.

The instant feeling of being overwhelmed attacks. You can feel it in your shoulders, in your head and all of a sudden, you just can no longer focus on the process and you end up facing the fact that today just got very long and complicated.

Perhaps you are not sure where you should start the project. You may even feel as if the task is so large or so hard that you do not have the skills or the ability to complete it or complete all of it. Perhaps you do not think you have all of the information and tools to get the job done right. Instead of accomplishing the task, then, you put it off to the side, for another day.

Why would you do that? Most people do this form of procrastination because it feels easier to accomplish something that they can do and know that they can do. They feel that the big project is just too hard.

Whether you have the intention of going back and completing the project or not, you have now sidestepped the job so that you can gain the comfort and the benefit of completing a job that is easier for you to do.

Since that was an important job, you realize at the last minute that you need to complete it and the overwhelming worry starts up all over a gain except; now there is more problem to deal with. Now, time is limited which means less focus and less ability to complete the job with the same quality that you could have done beforehand even though you think you could not have done so.

Important jobs and projects that are larger and harder do not just go away. They can not be shoved under the carpet until the next day, week or whenever you get to it. If you do that, you are likely to never be able to complete the project like you could complete it if you did it today, with your full attention and the time to do it right.

Procrastination can cause all types of negative situations for you. For example, some additional reasons that you may procrastinate include not being able to organize your thoughts and your needs, fearing that you will fail at the task, and waiting for the right time to start on your project. No matter what, it is still procrastination!

Many people need to work on improving their situations so that they can improve the overall need that they have for achieving time management skills. For some, being a perfectionist may be the reason that they do not step forward to complete the important tasks. For others, making decisions is not something that they know how to do correctly and thoroughly, which leads to not making any decision at all.

All of these signs of procrastination are just that: signs for you to stop doing them and to start taking back control of your time and your life. Understanding why it happens is the first step. Examine your life and the tasks that you are procrastinating right now. Why are you really putting off doing something that you could be doing today?

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Hello once again to all.. its Miz Helena here on this glorious Tuesday morn here in beautiful Sydney..  i hope this blog finds everyone well and your having a great week so far..

Well its time to strip off the suit and tie for a few moments.. ive been extremely busy these past few days trying to get lots done and up and in place before the big day..  so far so good im very pleased with my efforts and what ive managed to tackle.. Abundant World has been such a pleasure to work with and promote..  quite different from erotica i must admit.. actually WAY different from erotica..  lol..  and its been quite a welcomed change in direction.. so make sure you check out our new FREE Club Abundant World membership and our Ebay store!!  pretty kool stuff !!

However..  this blog isnt about talking business .. no..  like i said ive removed the suit and tie.. just like a businessman would when he comes home from work.. this is a time for me.. to sit and reflect and ease the pressures and smile and be happy like if i was to go to the park and pick a flower or something..    lol..  its so wonderful to appreciate lil moments like this..  taking time out.. coz we all need it.. sometimes we need to shift the focus away from the dollars and get back to what truly matters.. 

anyways.. as some of you know.. my day is fast approaching..  and is causing me to become excited and jittery at the same time..  i always get that way when the time draws near.. the same happened when i took off to Japan last year..  but im sooo looking forward to it.. firstly i have to tell you all about my passport dramas ..   just last week i thought i lost mine and paniced like you wouldnt believe!! so thru all the mix up i rang to cancel it ..  but found it in the meantime..  but it was too late to put a stop on the cancellation..  so i had to apply for a priority replacement !!  forking out more dollars and putting it on urgent dispatch.. luckily that arrived just the other day..  which i picked up from my local PO.. PHEW!!

No matter how busy i get.. i now lay down my guns and get out every evening and get the blood pumping!!  A couple of my neighbours and I have been meeting up for our nightly cozy walks and we’ve been having a ball!! we walk around quite aimlessly.. not knowing where we will be ending up!!… Just the other night we got so carried away with our girly chats that we ended up close to the airport !!  i’d say in another 10 mins we would have been amongst the international passengers waving em off !!  LOL..  but nevertheless we always have fun.. we had to hurry back thou as not to miss Desperate Housewives !!  LOL 

Its tax time YAY !!  and that means moola moola moola…. sometimes its great at times like these not to be a fulltime worker.. coz you get most of the tax back (in fact the majority of it back !!) when your income falls below the tax threshold..  esp for me now that comes in very handy !!  more cash = better shopping opportunities !! lol..  haha..  nah im not that bad..  hihi..  well..  i dont think so anyways..  my mentor however has a very different opinion..  he reckons thats all i like to do..  well i did leave him stranded one time without FTP help when he needed it and i just took off..   oooops..  (it wasnt as bad as it sounds btw..  HONEST!!)..   lol..   but yes..  i do love my shopping.. but im not what you might picture as a girl dolled up to the nines browsing all day with a soporifically bored bf in tow….  asking me every 5 mins if im done yet..  LMFAO..  no.. i dont drag ANYONE with me.. its my private time.. (ohh occasionally i will ask my gf..  then do lunch afterwards)… but for the most part i go myself and make a day of it.. and get other things done too.. like a deep Thai massage…  (mmmmm…  drool time… ) and intimate waxing.. and I have an absolute ball too!! my fave items of interest have to be unusual tops and perfumes…  and sometimes shoes if any catch my fancy..  my fave shoes have to be platforms.. not only because i think are very sexy..  but i looove the retro look and (shhhhh!!!) i also gain a few inches too !!  LOL plus the fact they are much more comfy to wear than stiletto heels .. (which i find hard to walk in believe it or not!!.. i totter rather than walk when i wear em..  lol.. ).. but i could wear platforms all day and stand in em no probs..  for casual wear im in loove with Docs.. i use to have a mid-calf length pair that i had to throw out recently coz ive had em forever and they were falling part..  a very sad day that was.. and im still looking for a similar pair but me cannot find !!

anyways..  love life talk time..  haha..  mines been sooo hot and exciting .. leaving me spinning and breathless .. (NOT!!)  lol..   my kiwi boy keep me busy thou.. on the fone..  like last weekend..  i swear you would think i owned telstra the way i was constantly nattering.. and that was after spending 2 nights in a row with the phones practically buried up my kazoo..  lol..  but yes sadly my love life is non existant right now.. lack of sex .. sorry correction.. NO SEX has fried my brain..  lol..  and i swear i thought i felt the first signs of threads appearing across my ?&^%$^!  lol.. wild fantasies, long pointed objects and chocolate have become my bestest bedtime buddies..  lol..  the chocolate has to be cadburys of course..   but seriously peepz..  my mind has been on a tremendous headfuck for about a year now .. Tray knows all about it.. well some of it..  the rest is so confusing.. draining..  and sooo fuckin pathetic..  however.. as each day passes and with strong support and positivity around me.. i have recovered .. im pleased to say..  no longer am i obsessed with a PC screen..  and someone i didnt even know..  and for that im giving myself constant pats on the back and looking at things as a learning experience.. i dont want to go into any details here.. and bore the pants off everyone..  so lets just suffice to say its no longer a problem.. YAY !!! 

im thinking of cutting my hair.. (only thinking at this stage sweetee..  hehe yes you cutee.. !!)..  anyways.. i would like to consider a shaggy cut.. i seen a style on a chick recently and she looked great!! and it got me thinking hmmm..  left long at the back with wispy layers around the fringe and sides.. with multiple streaks of colour ..   hmm… quite beautiful and reminded me very much of the 70’s and 80’s..  and how sexy the girls were..  so will be thinking about it as summer approaches and im back and brown and golden all over.. (yes that means NO bikini lines and yes..  thats how you get it !!..  LOL)…  ive had a style similar in the past and it felt so light and comfy.. the only thing i didnt like about it is when you want to grow it back and it ends up looking weird..  trying so hard to style it in ways that suits and doesnt make you look like youve stuck your fingers in the electrical sockets.. lol… so will announce my big decision if i decide.. right here. ..    in with the new and out with the old??.. could be subconsiously !!

hey im still getting offers of settling down with complete strangers here still..  i cannot believe… im so sure they are part of a phishing scam or similar.. coz there sob stories are all the same..  you might of read samples i posted at AWP MS page..  ohhhh but the good news is hits are waning..  coz ive stood up and spoke my mind and told em to expand their narrow lil one track minds..  fancy assuming someone wants to be hit upon coz of a pic..  damn we really have allowed ourselves to become so twisted and warped.. our natural sense of love and life has diminished so much…  so sad that is..   the only thing we can do is stay true to ourselves and soldier on..  (hopefully without codral)..  lol..  so very pleased i have stuck to my very big guns and put em in their place..  if i do wanna get nasty all i have to do is switch off and head on over to angel and her deviate pages and let her take over for a few hours.. its great because she actually keeps me balanced..  you know..  the yin and yang..  these days i’d say the 80/20 rule applies in  my life..  80% angel and 20% deviate angel..  lol.. and its super to be able to just switch off and become sumone else.. and release all the pent up **&&^%$$@! that goes on in my mind..  funny thou.. ive found the more you try to release sumthing the more it follows you..  lol … truth!!  so thats why i take time out to go a lil crazy and have a bit of fun.. and embrace it rather than try and fight it..  its inside us all.. its just sum ppl are to chicken to admit it..   

well i hope i havent chewed off everyones ear yet..  its so theraputic for me to just spill it all..  you know loosen the tie a bit and relax..  i cant forever be making out that butter doesnt melt in my mouth..  im just a normal gal with normal hang ups just like the rest..  just because im running a positive family orientated business doesnt mean things dont get to me..  i do have my moments too..  this is why we have diaries and blogs thank goodness.. to just blurt out whats been happening and whats on our minds.. i hope you tooo can relate to that feeling.. 

I hope you enjoy sum of these recent snaps i took inour BBQ area  (where i attempted to make my first live AWP vid for UT..  but got sidetracked badly !!)  lol..  but i will get round to that..    ENJOY peepz and have a brill week ahead !!  **sweet hugs and kisses for all**

- Miz Helena